Just say NO

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JUST SAY ‘NO!’  Part I

By Judy Thomas

No! What a powerful word.  We discovered that when first learning to speak. We retain this knowledge on a very primal level but have been conditioned to avoid claiming this power.  We are trained while growing up to compromise, to get along, to agree.  It starts with our parents, continues with other family members, gains steam with school and is firmly hammered home with our first job.  We are trained to fear saying 'No', even when the situation calls for it.  After all, we don't want people to believe we are unreasonable, oppositional, disruptive, anti-social or just plain rude.

There comes a time where it becomes clear that polite discourse characterized by gentle attempts to maintain our personal boundaries no longer works and stronger measures are called for if we are to protect ourselves.  That is when an unequivocal ‘NO!’ is the only option.  A statement backed up by action – the refusal to cooperate.  When we stop “going along to get along” and start demanding the respect we deserve as unique, brilliant stars with much to offer the world.

Check back on Wednesday, January 4, 2012 to read Part II.